Jiu Jitsu translated: This is a translation of an article from Carpe Diem Jiu-Jitsu in Japan. The link to the original article in Japanese is http://bjjaoyama.com/wordpress/852
What is sparring? I'm sure there are many interpretations on its meaning, but I would like my students to know that sparring in practice is something completely different from an actual match at a tournament. You explain it as the use of technique without having to depend on strength or speed, which could be defined as "Practice in a match setting to better you and your training partner's technique while maintaining a calm mind, heart, and spirit."
Since we're engaged in hand to hand combat injuries are going to happen, but I believe you can progress quicker and efficiently without getting hurt. If you're sparring every day with the intensity of a match you're bound to get a severe injury that will prevent your from practicing. Some may argue that in order to become a world champion you have to have the body to withstand injuries even with frequent and intense sparring. However, at our dojo we don't practice that way.
Tap quick and when finishing with a submission finish slow and with control. When you try to finish a submission with control they might get away. Who cares…. It's just practice anyway. As long as you can believe you would have been able to finish it in a match then that should be good enough. Another thing to keep in mind is that if the submission looked finished but you had to force your way out of it, you should be self conscious. There are some submissions where if you don't finish it right away you won't finish it at all. I tend to shy away from using them in training. It's more of a personal esthetic issues than anything else. Really, as longs as it's not illegal you can do anything but I'm really not that interested in submissions that might injure your partner or moves that just simply hurt. I spar while being tied up in the esthetic of things, but I like that. Those guys who are in their prime might not be saying things like that because they simply must win. And I can sympathize with that. But sparring like that can be done by competitors who are mutually training to be at the most elite levels.
When you're sparring there is no win, there is no loss. It's only your ego that cares about those things. I'm a black belt and my skills are presumable much higher than lower belts, but at times there are blue belts and purple belts of mine who will put me in a submission to tap. I believe frantically trying to escape that finish and avoid tapping looks much more lame. When it happens I just tap and give them bitter smile while saying, "you got me!" It's no exaggeration to say that when we're sparring our personality shows. It's really disappointing to see someone who has good character and personality clicking their tongue while sparring.
If you want to prove your potential then you should compete in tournaments. In a match, there really is no need to be aware of how your opponent is doing. That's the referee's job. Until the referee says "Paro" to stop the match, you don't need to let go of the submission. If you let go before the referee signals the end of the match with the verbal command, there is a chance the opponent claims they didn't tap. That actually happens once in a while. I was always the type to just let go. Some have escaped submissions as a result of that. Since that's my attitude toward things, maybe that's why I wasn't ever the best. But in the end, all I can say is "oh well."
I'll write this much and there are still going to be people that spare with excessive aggression during practice. These people shouldn't just be left to figure it out on their own. Those who intentionally hurting training partners, being unable to follow the manners of sparring even after ample corrections, will eventually be asked not to practice at our dojo. They might even be asked to leave our team. It's not a pretty job, but if it means avoiding a preventable injury I won't hesitate to do so.
Translated by: Eliot Kelly
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Wednesday, September 3, 2014
Submission Wrestling and NoGi Jiu-Jitsu in El Dorado Hills, CA
There are several types of martial arts. With the new MMA craze there are many more people to would like to learn more about the sport and even test their skills on the mat. One option is to join an MMA gym and train to become a fighter. Another option is to learn Jiu-Jitsu. Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu or Gracie Jiu-Jitsu is a martial art with its roots in MMA. Jiujitsu is very similar to MMA in that it emphasizes the ability to control your opponent from the feet and the ground. Similar to wrestling, jiujitsu involves body positioning to control and submit your opponent. A submission is any type of lock on a join or a choke that would force the person to accept defeat.
If you are looking for a great introduction to MMA to learn the game, get a great workout and enjoy the art of training, then jiujitsu is an option you need to look into. Out NoGi Jiu-Jitsu / Submission Wrestling classes at El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu will introduce you to the art and give you the opportunity to learn in a controlled and non threatening environment. Once you have attained a certain level of mastery your limits will be pushed and your abilities tested.
The great thing about nogi jiujitsu / submission wrestling is that every training session is a different session. Each session has a different purpose. One day the focus might be on technique, the other on testing your limits, another day on MMA application, Self Defense application, deeper technical understanding.
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Tuesday, August 5, 2014
Bully Prevention in El Dorado Hills
El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu Jitsu will be offering a curriculum based on bully prevention. Our program will focus on different area of bullying during the months of August and September to help students transition back to school. One of the most important thing to us is students feeling safe at school. Bullying can prevent that from happening.
Most importantly, we need to have a no tolerance policy with bullying.
Source: http://www.miamiherald.com/2014/08/03/4269990/bullying-prevention-101-speak.html
Most importantly, we need to have a no tolerance policy with bullying.
WE WILL NOT TOLERATE BULLYING
What if every teacher had this written on the board on the first day of the school. Maybe some of the students would get the message?!?
This is a great article that is simple for us all to understand how we can confront bullying. Let's take a look at how we can incorporate some of the strategies into our anti bullying practices.
An important element to consider in this is allowing for supervised bully prevention. Allowing for students to problem solve on their own before intervention takes place can allow students to better communicate and exercise strategies for the future when there is no supervision.
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Bullying prevention 101: Speak up!
Social media has given the mean kids a powerful new tool but more aware students, schools and parents can prevent abuse.
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BY KATHERINE KALLERGIS
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The old school playground bullies are still out there, pushing around kids in the sand box, but they are way out-numbered in the digital age.
“The cyber stuff — texting, social media — it’s a different animal, but it has similar characteristics,” said Connie Ernsberger, director of college and guidance counseling at Gulliver Schools in Pinecrest. “It’s so fast and so anonymous.”
But Ernsberger and other South Florida experts say the key to stopping bullying of any sort remains the same: Victims and witnesses have to be taught to speak up. School administrators, much more knowledgeable about the array of negative effects of bullying, long ago stopped shrugging off the behavior when they hear about it.
“The one key piece is that bullying will not be tolerated,” said Deborah Montilla, district director of student services for Miami-Dade schools.
Miami-Dade has developed extensive programs and training to deal with bullying, broadly defined to include teasing, social exclusion, stalking, destruction of property, cyberbullying and other forms of harassment.
The school district’s policy, available on its website, addressees the consequences of bullying, how to report it, as well as intervention and counseling procedures. Guidance and TRUST (To Reach Ultimate Success Together) counselors make classroom visits, morning announcements offer bullying prevention tips and specialized posters for elementary, middle and high schools hang on the walls.
“If we can help students understand the importance of healthy relationships, they’ll be more successful in school,” Montilla said.
One big lesson: If students know bullying is happening, they have to be brave enough to tell a trusted adult.
“We don’t want anything to escalate,” she said. “We can’t help if we don’t know. We want students to feel comfortable.”
Nationally, about 70 percent of young people report they’ve seen bullying occur in their schools. But when bystanders step in, physical bullying stops within 10 seconds nealry 60 percent of the time, according to StopBullying.gov.
Some tell-tale signs of bullying include increased nightmares, a change in grades, coming home hungry and asking for additional lunch money. Montilla says it’s important not to blame children for that kind of behavior or to tell them to respond in kind.
“Don’t tell them to toughen up,” she said.
Instead, get the school involved.
“Intervention works,” said Ernsberger of Gulliver, which like Miami-Dade public schools, has a zero-tolerance policy. “If we hear about it, we’ll act on it.”
Gulliver disciplines the bully, with punishment depending on the behavior, and provides ongoing counseling support.
Bullying tends to peak in middle school and students moving up grades in the same school or with the same friends are less likely to have problems in high school, she said.
“If they’ve been a part of Gulliver, they’ll feel like leaders on campus,” she said. “By the time they get to high school, they’ve had experience with peer pressure and positive social interactions.”
To prevent bullying, school counselors meet with incoming ninth graders, she said. At Gulliver, students are assigned to a counselor who they regularly meet with one-on-one.
Gulliver guidance counselor Adriana Muñoz said communication and trust are key to preventing bullying.
“When hormones start kicking in, it’s harder to pick up signs,” said Muñoz, who is a psychologist. Children become more private during middle school, especially with increased access to technology.
“It starts with a mean text or a mean comment on social media,” she said, “and it begins to escalate.”
Her advice to parents and children? “A lot of dialogue. You would be amazed at how many teachable moments there are — a subtle joke on TV, making fun of someone. Don’t wait until something happens to talk about it.”
Muñoz said the transition from elementary school to middle school is also hard on parents.
“You go from when they’re younger and they see you as a hero to when they think you don’t know them. Behavior changes,” she said. “Middle school is a tough age. It’s a time where they’re leaving their childhood and entering adolescence.”
Still, setting boundaries for kids is important, Muñoz said.
“We are a yes generation. You can find a balance. You have to have the self control to say that you’re looking for things that would be harmful to them,” she said.
With time, kids mature out of bullying situations.
Josefina Estrella, school counselor at Key Biscayne K-8 Center, said she works a lot with improving self confidence and self esteem to manage bullying situations.
“We do see a lot of name-calling. We have children from many different countries. We have to work a lot with understanding and approaching differences.”
Teachers and counselors begin teaching “proper communication” in kindergarten.
“We try to stay away from stigmatizing children as bullies because that doesn’t help,” she said.
Key Biscayne K-8 Center is a “No Place For Hate” school, as are others in the district. The school has worked with the Anti-Defamation League to sign anti-bullying pledges, put on activities and train students as “peace ambassadors.”
“Most of the time, teasing and other situations that make it to bullying happen outside of adult supervision,” Estrella said.
When they do happen, though, counselors and staff emphasize the importance of conflict resolution.
“It teaches them to solve problems, which builds self confidence,” she said. “I always give them the chance to approach the situation themselves.
“If the child or parent is concerned about a bullying situation, it’s important to talk to the school or an adult as soon as possible. The earlier we see the problem, the less serious it could be.”
Source: http://www.miamiherald.com/2014/08/03/4269990/bullying-prevention-101-speak.html
Another Resource: Anti Bullying Book for Students in Folsom, El Dorado Hills and the Greater Sacramento Area
Great to see the problem of cyber bullying being thought through in this article review of the book by Jessica Golden. Although there are many different ways to be proactive about bullying, this review seems to explain that the book focuses on the different blocks and tracking devices available to put a halt on the cyber bullying that can take place.
The best medicine is prevention.
These tools would allow us to prevent instances of bullying that take place online. That is great. However, it doesn't seem to come to the source of the problem, and doesn't seem to show a concrete understanding behind the psychology of the bully. What is the purpose of the bully? Why are they trying to hurt the people around them? What can we do to help the bully understand that their behavior is unacceptable?
These are a few questions I hope the book addresses in their analysis.
Needless to say, this is another great resource to reference when talking to parents and community members about anti-bullying. A tool for us to use to better understand the varying dynamics of cyber bullying.
El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu Jitsu wishes every new student a great start to the new school year! If anyone is in need for anything, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. We want to serve the community!
If you take away all the avenues that bullies have to torment, then the bullies will leave you alone” Jessica explains. “This I have learned from personal experience.
The best medicine is prevention.
These tools would allow us to prevent instances of bullying that take place online. That is great. However, it doesn't seem to come to the source of the problem, and doesn't seem to show a concrete understanding behind the psychology of the bully. What is the purpose of the bully? Why are they trying to hurt the people around them? What can we do to help the bully understand that their behavior is unacceptable?
These are a few questions I hope the book addresses in their analysis.
Needless to say, this is another great resource to reference when talking to parents and community members about anti-bullying. A tool for us to use to better understand the varying dynamics of cyber bullying.
El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu Jitsu wishes every new student a great start to the new school year! If anyone is in need for anything, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. We want to serve the community!
916.595.4064
New Anti Bullying Book, Written by a Survivor, Shows Victims of Bullying How to Use Modern Technology & Computer Forensics to End Bullying & CyberBullying Permanently
Bullying: Celebrities like Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift, Demi Lovato, Ellen Degeneres, Katy Perry & Justin Bieber are outspoken about it. Author Jessica Golden explains how, when it comes to Bullying & CyberBullying, that the best defense is a good offense.
If you take away all the avenues that bullies have to torment, then the bullies will leave you alone” Jessica explains. “This I have learned from personal experience.
(PRWEB) August 05, 2014
In an era where new technology is the pinnacle of society, people--both young and old, still face an age old problem: Bullying. No longer limited to the playground at recess or the school yard, bullying has taken on many different forms over the years, and occurs in many different places. Currently there are five types: Verbal, Physical, Psychological, Covert, and CyberBullying. With the vast amount of innocent lives lost to suicide, (or more appropriately, bullycide), something has to be done about it.
That Being Said, We Have Just Found Our Saving Grace:
Jessica Golden, author of Stop Being Bullied: A How To Guide For Victims And Their Families, approaches the bullying problem from a different angle. “As a Survivor of bullying, I know how it feels firsthand to feel vulnerable and helpless.” says Jessica. “Looking back, I realized that things would have been a lot different for me if I had the resources available to me that I list in my book. That is why I approach bullying from a totally different angle.”
And what angle is that, one may ask? This book is not like other books which tell how to cope with bullying. Stop Being Bullied: A How To Guide For Victims And Their Families goes into extreme detail on how to take away the control that bullies have over you. “If you take away all the avenues that bullies have to torment, then the bullies will leave you alone” Jessica explains. “This I have learned from personal experience”.
What is included in this book includes, but is not limited to tracking IP addresses of cyberbullies so they can be prosecuted, Apps for your phone to block text messages and phone calls from cyberbullies, how to protect your email account from cyberbullies, instructions on how to cyberbully-proof your facebook and myspace accounts, as well as a myriad of other technologies for various popular instant messaging programs. Also included are some assertiveness training techniques, as well as an extensive list of tuition free online public schools as well as online private schools, should the bullying get out of hand.
Stop Being Bullied: A How To Guide For Victims And Their Families is available exclusively in the Amazon Kindle Store. Priced at only $9.99, and 201 pages in length, this book is made for any person on any budget. “I wanted to make it affordable to everyone.” Jessica says, on a final note. “You don’t have to have a Kindle in order to read my book, as there are Kindle Apps available for your phone, PC, Ipad, Iphone and other devices.”
Jessica is also in the process of writing another book specifically addressing CyberBullying and going into more detail of how to use the same legal tools that Law Enforcement uses to document CyberBullying Crimes in order to prosecute Cyber Bullies to the fullest extent of the law.
To learn more about Jessica's book, visit the following link: http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Being-Bullied-Jessica-Golden-ebook/dp/B007AOAUKE/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1406601439&sr=8-2&keywords=stop+being+bullied
Don’t forget to join her Facebook group “Stop Being Bullied” by clicking Here:https://www.facebook.com/pages/Stop-Being-Bullied/144923805676153?ref=hl.
By doing so you will be notified when there are updates to the book and when her new book will be released.
Jessica hopes that her book becomes viral. “If you or someone you know would benefit from reading this book, please use the sharing tools provided here to share it through social media (such as Facebook, Twitter and Myspace, etc.), Email, and any other ways you can think of. If I can save just one life, then this book has done its job!”
Jessica is available for Interview and can be reached by phone at 770-865-9225
Friday, August 1, 2014
Gun ownership for Self Defense is on the rise
Self defense is a hot topic these days and it will always be an important topic of discussion as long as people are being harmed. This article reveals the rise in gun purchases by women for the sake of self defense.
Let's not get into talking about gun control or civil liberties, and stick to the discussion of self defense.
There are always contrasting thoughts on what self defense means. If we are being practical we would realize there are many other hidden dangers in our life that we need to defend ourselves from. Diabetes, Obesity, Pollution, Mental health, are all examples of attackers in our society that harm us on a drastically higher frequency than a physical attack.
However, this situation we are talking about here is the idea of physical self defense. The rational would be that carrying a gun would give us the opportunity to diffuse a potentially harmful situation or at worst use violent force to stop a relentless attacker.
Having a gun is only effective if we are able to show it and keep the person away.
Having the gun is only effective if we can hit what we are aiming to hit.
If these two unknown factors can be fulfilled when using a gun, then it makes sense to carry the weapon. However, there are plenty of situations where this won't happen. Learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu will reinforce your physical self defense abilities when you are unable to satisfy the two prerequisites of using a gun.
Our self defense curriculum will give you the physical tools necessary to escape dangerous situations and train you on how to function in a high stress situation, how to use your words to hopefully diffuse a situation, and how to survive an attack. Join us on the mats. We want to give you the necessary skills to do this.
Let's not get into talking about gun control or civil liberties, and stick to the discussion of self defense.
There are always contrasting thoughts on what self defense means. If we are being practical we would realize there are many other hidden dangers in our life that we need to defend ourselves from. Diabetes, Obesity, Pollution, Mental health, are all examples of attackers in our society that harm us on a drastically higher frequency than a physical attack.
However, this situation we are talking about here is the idea of physical self defense. The rational would be that carrying a gun would give us the opportunity to diffuse a potentially harmful situation or at worst use violent force to stop a relentless attacker.
Having a gun is only effective if we are able to show it and keep the person away.
Having the gun is only effective if we can hit what we are aiming to hit.
If these two unknown factors can be fulfilled when using a gun, then it makes sense to carry the weapon. However, there are plenty of situations where this won't happen. Learning Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu will reinforce your physical self defense abilities when you are unable to satisfy the two prerequisites of using a gun.
Our self defense curriculum will give you the physical tools necessary to escape dangerous situations and train you on how to function in a high stress situation, how to use your words to hopefully diffuse a situation, and how to survive an attack. Join us on the mats. We want to give you the necessary skills to do this.
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Report: More women, suburbanites carrying guns
Bloomberg
A student practices shooting a Smith & Wesson Holdings Corp. M&P 40 Airsoft pistol.
- Dawn Kurry
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The sports aspect of shooting guns may not be restricted to country boy stereotype anymore, as new statistics show the emerging face of today’s shooter is vastly different.
Almost half of today’s first time gun buyers in the country are female (48 percent of gun owners), usually purchasing a gun for self-defense and self-sufficiency. Also, most people buying guns today for the first time include people ages 22-30 living in suburban areas, according to a survey by the National Shooting Sports Foundation, which keeps a tally on all things related on firearms retail trends.
“The gun retailers themselves don’t keep track of the data,” says Bill Brassard, senior director of communications for the NSSF. “We tally them by what we see in background checks.”
An online survey of U.S. consumers was also conducted by the NSSF.
The organization, based in Newtown, Connecticut, releases annual reports, which in recent years show that first time gun buyers today are “active, using their gun on average once per month or more and are already participating in one or more shooting activities.”
Of these first time gun purchases, 87 percent are for home defense, 76 percent are for self defense and 63 percent of this demographic say they always wanted to own a gun. First time buyers are spending an average of $500 on their first gun.
Semiautomatic pistols are the most popular, followed by shotguns, and revolvers, according to the data.
Thursday, July 31, 2014
Leadership is Empowerment: A lesson in Martial Arts
Regardless of our political beliefs, I hope we can agree that educational opportunities for females should never be denied or be deprived. Eldorado Hills Brazilian JiuJitsu promotes marital arts for both females and males. Our belief is that jiujitsu is one of the greatest equalizer. Jiu-Jitsu is a marital art where men and women can equally find success with consistent training and learning technique.
Our program in eldorado hills promotes the idea of self development, mutual respect, and an expectation that anything less than our best is unacceptable. Through participation in our program we seek to empower future leaders.
We need your involvement to make this contribution. El Dorado Hills Brazilian JiuJitsu is a community group seeking to empower both men and women. Our marital arts program in brazilian jiujitsu is designed to enhance the capabilities of both genders. Join us on the mat and help us build a more empowered community of leaders both on and off the mat!
Our program in eldorado hills promotes the idea of self development, mutual respect, and an expectation that anything less than our best is unacceptable. Through participation in our program we seek to empower future leaders.
We need your involvement to make this contribution. El Dorado Hills Brazilian JiuJitsu is a community group seeking to empower both men and women. Our marital arts program in brazilian jiujitsu is designed to enhance the capabilities of both genders. Join us on the mat and help us build a more empowered community of leaders both on and off the mat!
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First lady asks leaders to change gender attitudes
07/30/2014 1:02 PM
07/30/2014 11:32 PM
First lady Michelle Obama speaks to selected participants of the Presidential Summit for the Washington Fellowship for Young African Leaders in Washington, Wednesday, July 30, 2014, during a roundtable discussion.MANUEL BALCE CENETA/AP PHOTO
WASHINGTON
Michelle Obama called on young African leaders to change traditional attitudes and beliefs that harm girls and women, adding that educating and making women financially literate is not enough.
"No country can ever truly flourish if it stifles the potential of its women and deprives itself of the contributions of half of its citizens," Mrs. Obama said.
The first lady spoke Wednesday to the inaugural class of young African fellows who are getting six weeks of leadership training in the United States as part of the Mandela Washington Fellowship.
"Leadership is about creating new traditions that honor the dignity and humanity of every individual. Leadership is about empowering all of our people— men, women, boys and girls," she said. "When we commit to that kind of leadership across the globe, that is when we truly start making progress on girls' education."
Mrs. Obama said Africa has made great strides such as more girls attending school, women starting businesses and more women serving in parliaments. But she said serious work remains when female genital mutilation, forced child marriage and domestic violence against women continue in some countries.
She said these "are not legitimate cultural practices," but "serious human rights violations."
The first lady said women in the U. S. have also overcome obstacles, such as voting rights, but they still face challenges with employment discrimination and domestic violence, and are still fighting for equal pay and higher ranks in government and corporate workplaces.
Mrs. Obama said her own life was influenced by the support and encouragement of her family— including men like her father, brother, uncle and grandfather.
"The men who raised me set a high bar for the type of men I'd allow into my life, which is why I went on to marry a man who had the good sense to fall in love with a woman who was his equal, and to treat me as such," she said, about President Barack Obama.
The first lady called on men to do the same and to tell peers who disagree that "any man who uses his strength to oppress women is a coward, and he is holding back the progress of his family and his country."
After Mrs. Obama's remarks and meeting with participants in the crowd, she held a round table discussion with more than 30 African leaders to discuss girls' education.
Bullying is a concern as we head back to school this fall
Bullying is a concern as we head back to school this fall. As parents we should take some time to talk with our kids about bullying. Here are a few things we should think about including in our discussion.
1) What is bullying?
2) What should we do if we see it?
3) What should we do if we experience it?
4) What should we do if it gets physical?
5) What should we do if there are multiple people?
6) What should we say (with our words, body language, face) ?
Take some time to create an open dialogue or discussion with your son or daughter. This will give them some tools to work with as they head into the school year.
There is no need to scare them with dangerous stories, but we should educate them and empower them. Give them the ability to work through a situation without your immediate presence.
If there is a history of bullying with your child, take the time to talk with the school. Send them an email and document your correspondence.
El Dorado Hills Brazilian JiuJitsu will be investing about 6 weeks of bully awareness lessons this fall to give students a set of tools to help deal with bullying situations. Everything begins with prevention. Bully prevention is like buckling your seatbelt before you begin driving. It's too late to buckle up after you've already been in an accident without wearing a seatbelt.
Let's have a fantastic school year!
1) What is bullying?
2) What should we do if we see it?
3) What should we do if we experience it?
4) What should we do if it gets physical?
5) What should we do if there are multiple people?
6) What should we say (with our words, body language, face) ?
Take some time to create an open dialogue or discussion with your son or daughter. This will give them some tools to work with as they head into the school year.
There is no need to scare them with dangerous stories, but we should educate them and empower them. Give them the ability to work through a situation without your immediate presence.
If there is a history of bullying with your child, take the time to talk with the school. Send them an email and document your correspondence.
El Dorado Hills Brazilian JiuJitsu will be investing about 6 weeks of bully awareness lessons this fall to give students a set of tools to help deal with bullying situations. Everything begins with prevention. Bully prevention is like buckling your seatbelt before you begin driving. It's too late to buckle up after you've already been in an accident without wearing a seatbelt.
Let's have a fantastic school year!
916.595.4064
Bullying a concern for parents as back to school draws near
Posted: Wednesday, July 30, 2014 4:50 pm
BRADENTON, Fla. -- Constant bullying has driven some children and teens into a deep depression, and some have even committed suicide. Others become bullies themselves.
ABC 7 sat down with a Bradenton mother whose daughter endured bullying at school, as well as a mental health counselor, to find out more.
"She got attacked at school ... She got scratched. They stole everything that she had." Zulamit Barroso's worst nightmare came true when her daughter came home and informed her she was being bullied at school. Her daughter Arianne is a special needs student who had to transfer to another school because of the constant mental and physical abuse. Arianne even took to punching the wall out of frustration. Barroso says even though faculty was told about the abuse, the bullying continued.
"Every time, she went to complain to a teacher or counselor. She was asked if she had any witnesses … when she said no, they said they could not do anything about it," she says
Clark West, a licensed mental health counselor at Affordable Mental Health Counseling Services of Sarasota says that to properly identify whether a kid is being bullied, parents and their children must have a good rapport with each other as well as great communication.
"Tell people. Open up — don't be ashamed," he says. "A lot of kids these days are really ashamed of telling an adult that someone is beating them up or threatening them. This is not primarily about you, this is about the abuser."
And it’s not just physical bullying and harassment that is a problem.
"Cyberbullying these days are just as bad as the physical contact," West says. "You know, what are your kids doing on Facebook?"
In Zulamit and her daughter Arianne’s case, Clark West has advice for them — others who are in the same situation.
"You need to get specific as you can about the situation. You know well if the kids say I’m being bullied...well what does that mean?" West asks. "Is someone threatening you? What is the situation?”
More about Cyber-bullying
- ARTICLE: Popular app blocked at Sarasota schools due to cyberbullying potential
- ARTICLE: Two girls arrested in cyber-bullying death
More about Bullying
- ARTICLE: Study shows effects of bullying years later
- ARTICLE: Two girls arrested in cyber-bullying death
- ARTICLE: Bullying prevention month
- ARTICLE: Bradenton girl, 16, crusades against potentially deadly bullying
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