Another Resource: Anti Bullying Book for Students in Folsom, El Dorado Hills and the Greater Sacramento Area

Great to see the problem of cyber bullying being thought through in this article review of the book by Jessica Golden. Although there are many different ways to be proactive about bullying, this review seems to explain that the book focuses on the different blocks and tracking devices available to put a halt on the cyber bullying that can take place.

The best medicine is prevention.

These tools would allow us to prevent instances of bullying that take place online. That is great. However, it doesn't seem to come to the source of the problem, and doesn't seem to show a concrete understanding behind the psychology of the bully. What is the purpose of the bully? Why are they trying to hurt the people around them? What can we do to help the bully understand that their behavior is unacceptable?

These are a few questions I hope the book addresses in their analysis.

Needless to say, this is another great resource to reference when talking to parents and community members about anti-bullying. A tool for us to use to better understand the varying dynamics of cyber bullying.

El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu Jitsu wishes every new student a great start to the new school year! If anyone is in need for anything, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. We want to serve the community!

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New Anti Bullying Book, Written by a Survivor, Shows Victims of Bullying How to Use Modern Technology & Computer Forensics to End Bullying & CyberBullying Permanently

Bullying: Celebrities like Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift, Demi Lovato, Ellen Degeneres, Katy Perry & Justin Bieber are outspoken about it. Author Jessica Golden explains how, when it comes to Bullying & CyberBullying, that the best defense is a good offense.

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If you take away all the avenues that bullies have to torment, then the bullies will leave you alone” Jessica explains. “This I have learned from personal experience.

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In an era where new technology is the pinnacle of society, people--both young and old, still face an age old problem: Bullying. No longer limited to the playground at recess or the school yard, bullying has taken on many different forms over the years, and occurs in many different places. Currently there are five types: Verbal, Physical, Psychological, Covert, and CyberBullying. With the vast amount of innocent lives lost to suicide, (or more appropriately, bullycide), something has to be done about it.

That Being Said, We Have Just Found Our Saving Grace:

Jessica Golden, author of Stop Being Bullied: A How To Guide For Victims And Their Families, approaches the bullying problem from a different angle. “As a Survivor of bullying, I know how it feels firsthand to feel vulnerable and helpless.” says Jessica. “Looking back, I realized that things would have been a lot different for me if I had the resources available to me that I list in my book. That is why I approach bullying from a totally different angle.”

And what angle is that, one may ask? This book is not like other books which tell how to cope with bullying. Stop Being Bullied: A How To Guide For Victims And Their Families goes into extreme detail on how to take away the control that bullies have over you. “If you take away all the avenues that bullies have to torment, then the bullies will leave you alone” Jessica explains. “This I have learned from personal experience”.

What is included in this book includes, but is not limited to tracking IP addresses of cyberbullies so they can be prosecuted, Apps for your phone to block text messages and phone calls from cyberbullies, how to protect your email account from cyberbullies, instructions on how to cyberbully-proof your facebook and myspace accounts, as well as a myriad of other technologies for various popular instant messaging programs. Also included are some assertiveness training techniques, as well as an extensive list of tuition free online public schools as well as online private schools, should the bullying get out of hand.

Stop Being Bullied: A How To Guide For Victims And Their Families is available exclusively in the Amazon Kindle Store. Priced at only $9.99, and 201 pages in length, this book is made for any person on any budget. “I wanted to make it affordable to everyone.” Jessica says, on a final note. “You don’t have to have a Kindle in order to read my book, as there are Kindle Apps available for your phone, PC, Ipad, Iphone and other devices.”

Jessica is also in the process of writing another book specifically addressing CyberBullying and going into more detail of how to use the same legal tools that Law Enforcement uses to document CyberBullying Crimes in order to prosecute Cyber Bullies to the fullest extent of the law.

To learn more about Jessica's book, visit the following link: http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Being-Bullied-Jessica-Golden-ebook/dp/B007AOAUKE/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1406601439&sr=8-2&keywords=stop+being+bullied

Don’t forget to join her Facebook group “Stop Being Bullied” by clicking Here:https://www.facebook.com/pages/Stop-Being-Bullied/144923805676153?ref=hl.

By doing so you will be notified when there are updates to the book and when her new book will be released.

Jessica hopes that her book becomes viral. “If you or someone you know would benefit from reading this book, please use the sharing tools provided here to share it through social media (such as Facebook, Twitter and Myspace, etc.), Email, and any other ways you can think of. If I can save just one life, then this book has done its job!”

Jessica is available for Interview and can be reached by phone at 770-865-9225

Tips to Bully-Proofing for everyone in El Dorado Hills

Some very insightful tips on bully-proofing your child. These are not the solve all to the issues of bullying, but is definitely a start. The theme to this article is the need for parent and guardians involvement. Parents need to take the time to think about how they will parent their children through bullying situations, just like they would think about parenting their child when they act up, talk back, or refuse to eat their vegetables.

As good as these tips might be to help bully-proof your child, there is an element that is missing. The issue of cyber bullying through social media and social networking sites. This is an issues that will grow and as educators try to apply their training to help reduce bullying, we will see that some of the older strategies are not as effective. A shift towards thinking about how technology can change our way of doing things needs to be well thought out.

I believe a key ingredient involved in helping with cyber bullying will also involve parent involvement. Parents and teachers/ educators need to take specific steps to help.

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4 Tips to Bully-Proof Your Child

The issue regarding bullying in schools has grabbed a lot of attention lately. Given that 28% of middle school students experience some manner of bullying, it's no surprise that suicide and depression rates keep on increasing.

Even celebrities have taken the initiative to campaign against bullies because there have been cases where kids were beaten to death.

How can you as parent bully-proof your child and help them face these odds?

Child self-esteem expert Todd Gaster says,"It's a matter of building a confident and resilient child at home. You may not be able to stop the bullies from coming, but you can teach your child to skillfully handle the situation themselves."

He also says that encouraging resilience at home is like teaching your child to bounce back. More importantly, your child makes the transition from victim to survivor.

Bullies aim for kids who lack self-esteem and confidence simply because it's easy to intimidate them, hence the reason for establishing both. The first step is to create a great support system.

Your child should always feel accepted and welcome no matter who they are or who they decide to be. This provides a "buffer" if they are getting bullied and the chances of them resorting to suicide or hurting themselves are dramatically decreased.

1. Parents should promote positive emotions

In other words, opportunities to laugh and enjoy life. Parenting typically involves setting guidelines and rules, but it shouldn't overshadow the fundamental need to experience happy moments.

"A child who is bullied is usually in a very disempowering emotion. Depression, fatigue, frustration, sadness. By teaching our children who to be in control of their emotions, how to process their emotions we can put them in a position to succeed in the world of bullies," said Gaster.

In addition, parents should let their kids know they are on their side no matter what. Make time to talk about negative social situations and enforce the fact that you'll be there whenever they need you. If they know they have the full support of their family then children naturally feel more confident.

2. Explore areas of interest your child may have.

Help them to take part in activities which make them happy and essentially allow them to feel good about themselves. Don't get hung up on what you want them to do.

Participate in their excitement for whatever they choose to do. Another powerful advantage parents can give their children is teaching them mindfulness. Ultimately, it will help them to control their emotions and how they react. It's important that children become "aware" of themselves.

3. Develop Their Problem solving skills

Instead of just providing answers when they have a problem, help them to explore all the possibilities. Present different aspects and ask them how they think each approach is going to play out or what solution will have the best result. It is also essential to keep them focused on the future.

This doesn't mean indulging in a fantasy world.

Remind them of realistic goals they have like getting a license or traveling abroad between graduation and enrolling in college. Their attention should primarily be driven towards what they want to achieve, not where they are.

4. Lead by example.

Your actions will speak louder than your words and your children need to see it. Like I mentioned before, you can't stop the bullies from coming, but you can provide your child with the necessary resilience to overcome any intimidation.

All kids involved in bullying -- whether they are the ones being bullied, bullying others or witnessing bullying -- can be affected. It is important to support all kids involved to make sure the bullying doesn't continue and effects can be minimized.

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Bullying can lead to suicide

News like this hurst deep inside to read. Bullying can lead to suicide. Regardless of what is going on with the school district and the family, we need to get to the source of the issue.

The issue being the power of social media, and information being spread online. A further understanding and training on how to deal with cyber bullying is essential as we move forward with our community development.

There are some alarming things in the article we need to think about.

1) Lack of action by the faculty and school
2) Unaware parents and family
3) Inability to find counseling
4) Bullies not thinking about the consequences of their actions

These are just some of the main issues that we need to address if we want to learn from what has happened and plan ahead or come to some type of solution.

A central theme to all of these issues are a lack of communication. Interestingly, the more connected we become online and to the cyber world, the less connected we become in person. Establishing a good foundation in communication is and will be an essential part of educating our society from here on out. Acknowledging that there is someone in front of you, that the person has feeling and thoughts and words, that how we behave or interact with them will make a difference (positive or negative) in the now and future.

If there is anyone being bullied, needing help, being bullied to think about suicide, please contact our school, El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. We want to help you. We can find a solution. There's no need to end your life.

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Bathroom video, bullying led to teen's suicide, parents say

Matthew Burdette committed suicide after an embarrassing video taken at school went viral, his parents say. (KGTV)

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San Diego teen committed suicide after video taken in bathroom went viral, parents say

A San Diego couple says their 14-year-old son committed suicide after a video taken of him allegedly masturbating in a school bathroom went viral and subjected him to constant teasing and bullying.

In a $1-million claim filed against the San Diego Unified School District, the couple, Timothy and Barbara Burdette, say a teacher, an administrator and possibly other employees at University City High School knew of the teasing and bullying but did nothing to stop it.

Matthew Burdette, who was on the water polo and wrestling teams and was a Boy Scout studying for his Eagle rank, killed himself Nov. 29 while the family was at their cabin in Crestline for Thanksgiving.

The boy left behind a note saying he committed suicide because he could no longer "handle school" and had "no friends," according to the claim.

The parents' account was first reported on the website of KGTV-TV Channel 10 in San Diego.

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The San Diego County district attorney's office declined to say whether the boy who the claim says took the video might face charges under the state's anti-bullying law. However, a spokesman for the district attorney said a hearing is set for July 23 in juvenile court on the matter.

Once other students saw the video "they teased him, they harassed him, they made his life miserable over a two-week period," Matthew's aunt, Laura Burdette Mechak, told KGTV.

Only after their son's death did the family learn of the video from other students and its effect on Matthew, the claim says.

In the claim, the Burdettes say they will be "forced to bear the death of their son for the rest of their lives."

The couple went to the school seeking answers but the staff was not helpful, Mechak said.

The Burdettes' claim was rejected a month ago, giving the family six months to file a lawsuit.

School officials issued a statement Monday, indicating support for the Burdette family but declining further comment.

“At San Diego Unified, the safety and well-being of our students is a top priority,"  the statement said. "The district also adheres to the privacy and confidentiality laws and regulations related to students, families and ongoing investigations."

Source: http://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-ln-bathroom-video-bullying-suicide-20140714-story.html

Cyber bullying at 1 in 4 El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Fights Back

The more we become connected online and are able to embrace friends and interactions through our phone, laptop, and mobil device, the more we need to think about teaching our kids the guidelines on how to use these devices.

1 in 4 children admit to cyber bullying, and those are just the students who are willing to acknowledge and conscious of the actions. It wouldn't be surprising if more than half of students online haven't taken part in some form of bullying online.

The first step to bully prevention begins with talking to our children about how we communicate, both in person and online. Since most of these are taking place on social networking sites, regardless of the persons presence or not, they needs to be an understanding and training for students to be more aware and mature when using these devices.

El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu  is a martial arts school located in El Dorado Hills, CA that reinforces these lessons on the mat. In our curriculum we include thoughts, training, and methods to help address a bully both in person and online. More importantly, we talk to our students about different possibilities, and keep the parents as well as the students up to date on how they can be advocates agains bullying.

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1 in 4 secondary students 'admits to cyber bullying'

Survey also finds that 1 in 5 primary school pupils has been bullied online

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A posed photograph of a victim of cyber-bullying. One in four secondary school students have admitted to bullying their peers online in the past year, according to a poll. -- PHOTO: ST FILE  

BY JANICE TAI

One in four secondary school students admitted that they have bullied their peers online within the past year, a poll has found, while one in three said they have been victims of cyber bullying.

These ranged from spreading rumours or vicious remarks about a person on social networks, to "defacing" a person's picture and then circulating it online.

One in five primary school children, too, reported being "cyber bullied".

The survey of 3,000 secondary school students and 1,900 primary pupils was done by Touch Cyber Wellness, the main agency that runs online safety talks in schools here.

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New app offers safety tips

PARENTS who want to find out more about what their children get up to in cyberspace can now do so while on the move.

SingTel and Touch Cyber Wellness launched Singapore's first cyber-wellness mobile app - dubbed notAnoobie - last week.

In popular lingo, the term "noobie" refers to a novice.

The free app aims to be a one-stop information source to help parents better understand and protect their children from online risks.

Parents can be kept in the loop about the latest cybertrends in six key areas via the app: gaming, social media, cyber bullying, inappropriate online content, mobile technology and online privacy.

In each section, there are resources such as game reviews and real-life stories of young people who had to grapple with online bullying or online scams and pornography.

"Many parents have told us that they are often clueless about their children's online activities. Yet, they are and should be the first line of defence when their children run into problems," said Mr Eugene Seow, executive director of Touch Community Services.

The app is available for download on the Apple iTunes and Google Play stores.

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Source: http://www.straitstimes.com/news/singapore/education/story/1-4-secondary-students-admits-cyber-bullying-20140714

Anti-Bullying is a Community Movement: What Martial Arts Can Do

As a community, El Dorado County and Sacramento County could do more to support anti bullying. What if every jiu-jitsu and martial arts school focused on an anti bullying program for the first part of the school semester this fall. If the martial arts schools in our area could all get together and agree to teach a curriculum that would teach our students about the different types of bullying, how to prevent it, and how to get help, I believe we would see a dramatic decline in bullying. 

The problem is that we don't always have time to focus on bullying because there are so many other things that need to be accomplished. The need to accomplish "things" could be incorporated into an anti bullying project.

This article states some good statistics and facts about what is going on and what should be done, but in truth brings no solution to the table. Get more teachers involved. Get the parents involved. Get the students involved.....

Isin't that what everyone has been doing for the last decade? Our kids jiujitsu program at el dorado hills brazilian jiujitsu will focus on bullying fro the months of August through the middle of September. Not only will be giving students the tools to help them use their words to communicate and empower themselves, but also learning how to physically defend themselves if necessary. We will teach them how to fall without getting injured and how to get back up to their feet without getting hurt. We will teach them about using their voice to say stop. We will teach them how to get out of a headlock. We will teach them about reporting and not telling. 

This is just the beginning. Help us serve our community and support the anti-bullying in our neighborhood of El Dorado Hills, Folsom, and Cameron Park. See you on the mat! 

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Bullying: common ground and next steps

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This article is part of our series on bullying. Here are the other articles in the series:

• Voices from forums

• My personal experience and lessons learned

• Share your stories and thoughts

What's Been Said

A report on bullying from the David Mathews Center for Civic Life identifies four common areas of concern. The report, published last month, follows a yearlong series of public forums that canvassed the state. The Center received 1,700 survey responses from its 4,500 forum participants.

1. Zero tolerance policies while tough may be ineffective

Although 65 percent of respondents strongly agree on harsh punishments for bullies, others noted that a zero tolerance policy is reactive rather than preventative. A balance between the two must be developed instead.

2. Students need protection when reporting bullying

Forum participants generally agreed that students should be empowered to report instances of bullying. Forty-three percent of survey responders said that students who report bullying should do so even if they may be bullied further. School officials in attendance believed that providing anonymity would even be worth the risk of possible false reports.

3. "It takes a village"

One recurrent theme from the report is that communities should support anti-bullying efforts in their schools. Students, teachers and administrators alone cannot bear the responsibility. Almost 70 percent of respondents said that the community and parents should spend more time working towards anti-bullying efforts. Fifty-four percent said they strongly agreed that civic groups and businesses have a role in the prevention of bullying.

4. Cyberbullying is a real issue

Forum participants agreed that cyberbullying affects students. The meteoric rise of social media has opened up more venues for bullying, and now bullying can follow students home. Almost 52 percent of responders strongly agreed that parents should monitor their children's cell phone and internet use.

What's Been Done

5. Alabama's law

The Student Harassment Prevention Act of 2009 requires schools to report and post bullying statistics online, create an anonymous tipline, and adopt a compliant anti-harassment policy by 2010.

6. Schools with compliant policy

By 2012, two-thirds of the state's school districts had adopted such a policy and half had created the mandated reporting forms, according to a review by the Alabama School Connection.

Challenges and Next Steps

7. Data can't always be trusted

Unfortunately, the reported bullying statistics are not entirely reliable. In the 2011-2012 school year, less than one percent of students state-wide were reported to be bullied. The national average is 15 to 25 percent.

8. Evolution of bullying

As concern for issues such as sexuality and gender has increased, harassment has become a substitute term for bullying. Bullying falls under the state's definition of harassment, but Alabama is unique in not using the term bullying in its law.

9. What's next

It's time that responsibility be put on the actors involved: schools, students, parents and the community. Each school must first measure its baseline of bullying incidents and school culture. Then all involved must do their part, share their successes and failures, and continue working to create safer school environments.

Source: http://www.al.com/opinion/index.ssf/2014/07/bullying_common_ground_and_nex.html