After reading many articles on
bullying, I can't address the importance of a parent's involvement in a child's life. Almost every article talks about the importance of a parent talking with their child and working on skills to help them think about what bullying is and what they can do to prevent it.
The list of 10 below, are ideas that help confront bullies and prevent things from escalating. As a parent, it might be good to notice what traits your child already has, and what you can work on with them. If you would like any assistance, please give us a call!
Confidence. Identifying and being proud of his personal strengths will give your child a good feeling about himself that will make bullies less likely to target him.
Social skills. Even if your child is shy, initiate playdates or hang outs with peers to let them practice social skills and friend-making.
Good hygiene. Make sure your child regularly bathes, washes her face, brushes her teeth, combs her hair, and wears clean clothes. Provide deodorant for kids who've hit puberty.
Friendships. Some kids have a large group of friends, others just like to have one or two. How many isn't important, but every child needs at least one good friend who is always on their side.
Coping with failure or disappointment. Self-affirmations, journaling, and exercise are all good ways to deal with let-downs.
Look approachable. Maintaining eye contact with people, smiling, having good posture, and generally appearing approachable and friendly goes a long way toward warding off bullies.
Awareness of others. Be sensitive to your child's need to fit in (certain clothes or shoes, etc) as circumstances allow.
Be a team player. Whether it's a sport, a club, or a church youth group, your child should be involved in something and feel like part of a team. Your child should also feel like a valuable part of the family “team” as well.
Assertiveness. It can be a formal self-defense or martial arts class, or just talking at home about how to stand up for yourself with a firm 'stop it.'
Ignore bullying. Bullies want a reaction: don't give it to them. Retaliating could also mean that your child could be punished by her school. If a reaction is warranted, report it to adults.
Eliot Kelly
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